Any relationship starting out is busting at the seams with romance. From hand holding to love letters to simply laying together for hours…
As the relationship matures and the so-called honeymoon stage becomes a thing of the past we hold onto these memories and we find ourselves wondering, where did the romance go? How do we get it back?
I’ve been with my partner for three years this month and I will always remember this moment early on in our relationship. We were at a friend’s place for dinner – another couple – and we decided to play Battle of the Sexes. For those of you who aren’t familiar, it’s a game that tests how well you and your partner know each other. The other team asks a question to one of you and the other tries to figure out what their partner will say. This question came up: What was the last romantic thing I did for you? The question was for my partner. What was the last romantic thing I did for him? It being a new relationship, he had plenty to choose from to be sure but what he actually said took me off guard. He wrote: When you made me a sandwich today for lunch. Needless to say, I was taken by surprise. A sandwich?! This is what he finds romantic?
Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away with the theatrics of romance, especially around Valentine’s Day. It’s fun to indulge in a little frivolity in the way of gifts, cards, and such but it’s also so important to remember what true romance is.
Though we ended up losing the game to the other couple I walked away feeling like I had won something much bigger than the game. I didn’t get it at the time but what he meant about the sandwich was that he appreciates the little things I do for him much more than he would appreciate a prettily wrapped gift of lingerie or candy. Being there for him when he has a bad day or celebrating with him when something cool happens or even something as mundane as a sandwich, it’s just about being nice.
I’ve also learned this doesn’t just pertain to your significant other but also to others in your life that you love like friends and family. I urge you to remember this on Valentine’s Day this year. From your friends to your family to your co-workers to the person who pours your coffee at Starbucks each morning – keep the romance alive and simply be nice.
When’s the last time you did something romantic for someone?