No one likes to admit to feelings of envy, but as of late, most of us are faced with it on a more frequent basis than we’d like. With the rise of what is known as, “social media envy” it’s more common than ever to cultivate feelings of “I wish I had that.” It’s also a more socially accepted behavior and with social media being a part of the average persons everyday it makes being envious very hard to work through. We are all guilty of perusing someone’s timeline or Instagram feed full of sunny vacation photos and thinking, “That bitch!” What’s more is that instead of our friends pulling us out of this negative behavior they simply fuel it with a response like, “I know, right?!” While a little envy never hurt anyone, it can quickly progress to something much more toxic and the aftermath is usually a sad hot mess.
I am by no means an expert but I can attest to having feelings of envy a little more often than I care to admit. Here are a few things I try in order shake these bad feelings.
Play Your Part
What started out as a harmless way to keep in touch with your friends and family has become a way to boast and show off life’s best moments. When anyone publishes a post on any social media outlet they are by default participating and fueling a cycle of envy – it comes with the territory and in some ways it’s unavoidable. Think about who will benefit from seeing your kid doing something cute or your morning latte. As a poster – be intentional and conscious, and as a viewer – take each post with a grain of salt.
Get Off the Social Media Train
Take a break. Maybe not forever, but I find taking an hour or even a few days off helps me get out of my negative funk. This can be great for productivity, creativity, and can help you focus on what is really important. This can be hard for people who blog or work in the social media world but if you can, I would really recommend it.
Worry About Yourself
We’ve all seen this quote popping up all over our feeds, “Don’t compare your everyday to someone else’s highlight reel.” Everyone is on their own journey in life and even you’re closest friends may not be at the same place as you at the exact same time. When I am in a negative space, my husband tells me to list three things that are going great for me in my life. Though I find it annoying at first, it works. Chances are you have tons to be grateful for in your life and those are the things to focus on. The next time you see someone’s Instagram and can sense the wrath of envy starting to sneak up on you, shift your thought process and focus on yourself.
Give Good Vibes
We’ve all fallen victim to the backhanded compliment and no one really ever enjoys it. The, “OMG congrats! I’m so jelly!” is all too common throughout your comments and wall posts. When was the last time someone was simply happy for you or you for them without “jealousy” tainting your well wishes? Next time you see someone has accomplished something awesome, give them good vibes and don’t feed into your bad feelings.